Since I encourage curiosity, it is my joy to answer the questions that I get. When a person questions the circumstances that make up his or her life, things start to change for the better and freedom is just around the corner. Here are some more questions from Sabir:
Thanks Michael for your reply, As you encourage questions, I will ask because I am confused and seek clarity through the guidance of your wisdom.
How do you define Happiness? We live in this world and have to live under the circumstances that we face day by day. I am fortunate that I have some education and experience, and live my life in so much comfort, but in this part of the world where basic necessities are rare, people are dying due to floods, droughts, earthquakes and poverty. How can a person seek his or her self-nature when the reality, or as you called limitations are so brutal? Living in extremely difficult circumstances, how can a person find happiness/self-nature or gain self-knowledge with an empty stomach, crying hungry children, and dying parents?
My point is that man is helpless; it was not his choice to come into the world. Like the Sufi preachers, you use very simple words to encourage people to dig out and seek their inner nature. But how can people do that while living in this real world if it is REAL?
Another instance of a painful reality is a person facing a serious setback and break up of an intense relationship. This makes his life miserable. Every breath he takes is filled with sorrow and grief because his loved one left him alone. How can he escape this suffering? Can he get his normal life back? Should he consult with a doctor for a remedy? Can you suggest some meditation to overcome this misery? Michael, please help as this is really a matter of life or death for someone?
Regards,
Sabir
At best these words can point to a state that is really beyond words. I know that when I use the word happiness people will think of a smile as they lie on their favorite beach sipping a cocktail. Moreover they will think of pain, misery and sadness as the opposite of this happiness. However I am using happiness in a different way. I am refering to the feeling of being at home or at peace. I am talking about a happiness that has no opposite. What this means is that even in the midst of pain as you cry ouch! you can still abide in peace. Obviously this does not come from a state of mind. After all you are thinking and feeling ouch!
This happiness comes from standing as the silent witness, where the ups and downs of life are seen in their proper perspective. It means standing as the stillness that all of this motion points to. You should know that you cannot create this stillness; you can only abide in your original state.
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From your question I can see that you know that life can be unpredictable. Even for someone as well off as you, you never know when there will be an earthquake, flood, or war. Quickly all of your possessions will disappear. And even if you manage to hang on to your possessions disease is unpredictable and can strike at any time.
If you think that pain and suffering are just for the poor, you should remember what happened in my part of the world. We live in California near where Steve Jobs passed away from pancreatic cancer. While he could afford the best care, he only lived for eight years, even with his painful treatments.
But life provides an incredible opportunity
However you should know one thing: despite all of the pain and suffering that you see, life is still an incredible opportunity. While experiencing suffering in the human form, you can discover that which is free from suffering and even death. And once you discover this, you will suffer no more. This is the promise of all sages springing from before eternity, and this is my promise to you. If you just look to the place where these words point you will find a joy that is unaffected by the ups and downs in life. You will find oneness, which is the reality and harmony behind the whole universe. This is the wish fulfilling gem that everyone seeks in various forms.
Although suffering seems intense, when you discover the secret of this teaching in an instant your suffering disappears. Like a magic trick, suffering seems intense when it is present, but once it is gone it will feel like it never came into being. Suffering disappears for good when the person, bombarded by changing circumstances, disappears. Then as if rising out of the ashes of limitation, you will become the changeless Self that you always were. It is here that you will rest in peace.
Finding peace after a painful breakup
Now for the person facing a breakup of an intense relationship: Like death, this person is grieving the loss of a loved one and that is natural. This person does not have to change his mind. The grieving process will naturally run its course. Meditation is the best remedy for grief. Here are two pointers that you can give to that person to help with his meditation:
First it is unfair to ask another person to provide you with the happiness and love that she just can’t provide. That’s because happiness and love comes right from your heart and not from another person. This means love comes from the place where you actually experience it, and not from the things that you see. Notice this and in future relationships you will be able to experience a deep connection in oneness, without the fear of loss.
You are the seer of limitation, not the one trapped in it
Second, notice that your identity is really the Awareness that sees the person who appears caught in his problems. The seer is like a steady flame. As the seer, you are not the one trapped by your problems. You can tell this person that Awareness is not a state of mind. Rather it is your original identity. Knowing this you don’t have to change your mind. Doctors and medications can only help you to change your mind for a short period of time; these are temporary fixes. On the other hand in meditation you can shift the place where you stand, out of the mind and into your innate Awareness. That will help you resolve this problem for good. In my book you will find many more gems to help with relationships.
Use your circumstance as an opportunity to practice
One last thing: In my spiritual practice the world around me was fairly stable. I had enough to eat, and there were no wars or natural disasters. This made it easier for me to find the things that were bothering me and keeping me stuck in limitation so that I could resolve them and wake up. While you can practice under any circumstance, I would recommend taking advantage of the fact that your world is stable right now. Practice with an open minded intensity so no matter how your world changes, you will never suffer again. Please tell me if this answered your questions or if you have any further concerns.
Asking Question
As always feel free to ask questions. It is only when you don’t ask that you get to live in assumed limitations. When you can ask you are well on your way to freeing yourself from the limitations that seem to cause your suffering.
Here questions about this article or other things going on in your life are always welcome; you can write us at michael@ananya.com. I love questions and try to answer them all in this blog. That’s because when you start to question limitation, you are on the verge of destroying it.
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Michael Gluckman